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A Beginner's Guide To Online Dating


  • A Beginner's Guide To Online Dating

    Finding someone special to spend the rest of your life with isn’t easy. It gets even more difficult when you are looking online versus trying to find someone in person. Since you aren’t able to physically see the person in front of you to verify they are who they say you are, you have to be even more cautious in how you approach online dating. If you are new to the game, here are a few tips to help you along the way.

    It all starts with your online profile.

    If you expect to succeed in the world of online dating, you need a well-written profile. Your profile should be unique to your individual likes and interests. This customizable area within your profile should contain photographs, biographical information and information about what it is you want in a mate.

    Oftentimes, people get intimidated when filling out their profile. This is your chance to make a good first impression. You only get one shot at it, so you need to spend ample time going through and making sure everything is perfect before publishing your profile online. Instead of stressing over your profile, consider breaking it down into easier to manage sections to make the process faster and simpler.

    Break your profile down by picture, username, headline and main paragraph. Gather some of your closest friends together to help you fill it all out. Remember, your friends will make sure you paint yourself in the best positive light. They want you to succeed and find someone special in your life.

    • Use a recent picture. Include a full body shot and head shot taken within the last few months. You want pictures that accurately represent you as an individual. Being honest about what you look like eliminates the fear of the other individual not calling you back because of what you look like.
    • Don’t use pictures with a bunch of props or other individuals. The main profile picture should be of you. It shouldn’t be photos of you with your friends at the beach or you holding your beloved pet. Just you alone. Photos with these extras can be part of your extended profile.
    • Keep your photo current. Include photos of you doing something you enjoy or from a recent vacation. They work great when you need something to talk about.
    • Refrain from putting a bunch of pictures of you with others on your profile. Putting a bunch of pictures of you with the opposite sex isn’t going to be bode well. It doesn’t send a good first impression.

    • The whole point of a headline is to let people know what you want. It should be fun and playful. Come up with something that makes people want to find out more about you. Make yourself stand out among all the others online.
    • Don’t go overboard when coming up with a headline. Using too many puns prevents people from being able to know who you really are.

    • While it’s okay to choose a unique username, you don’t want something that is going to confuse people and make them wonder what it means. You want to seem approachable.
    • Don’t go with something too provocative. If you want a serious relationship, you need a serious username.
    • Avoid jumbled messes for your username. Just because the name you really wanted is already in use, that doesn’t mean you should create a bunch of jargon that no one is going to be able to decipher. Keep it simple and easy to understand.

    • Don’t write an essay. Keep it short, simple and to the point. You don’t want to share too much information.
    • Be unique. You don’t want your profile to read like everyone else’s online. You want to stand out and make people take notice of what you have to offer and who you are as an individual
    • Your description should have one paragraph outlining what it is that you enjoy ding, one outlining your quirks and pet peeves and one that details what you enjoy doing now.
    • Proofread everything before publishing it online.

    Tips to help you succeed at online dating.
    • In the event you have to break a date, take the time to call the individual on the phone. Sending a text message or email is the cowards way out. The other person deserves the courtesy of knowing what’s going on.
    • After making a date, remain in contact with the individual. Call them and return their calls. Be open to communication. Ignoring someone after making a date with them is rude and inconsiderate.
    • If you get a message from someone online that you aren’t interested in dating, don’t bother replying. When you reply, you are giving the person the impression that they stand a chance and inviting them to continue sending you more messages. In the event that you do respond to someone and later on feel they aren’t right for you, be honest about your situation. Telling someone you are in a relationship is the worst thing you can do. No one is going to believe that. If that were the case, you wouldn’t be on a dating site in the first place.
    • Just because the main profile picture might be appealing, that doesn’t mean you should stop there. Look at the rest of the pictures before contacting the individual.
    • If you give your number to someone and you cannot answer the phone when they call, take the time to call them back. Don’t make them have to call you again. Since they took the initial initiative to call you and had no way of knowing you weren’t going to be able to speak on the phone, you should be the one to make the return call to them as soon as you have a minute.
    • The only one who should ever use your dating profile is you. Allowing a friend to browse through some of the profiles online could end up resulting in your receiving extra messages from people you aren’t interested in to begin with.
    • Don’t lie about where you live. Make sure your state and city are accurate. While this might seem pretty obvious, you would be surprised at how many individuals post inaccurate information online. Lying about where you live is not only deceitful, but it can cause a lot of stress and turmoil for someone who thought you were nearby and was interested in dating you.

    Common online dating mistakes to avoid.

    Many individuals are turning to the Internet to connect with someone special they can spend the rest of their life with. There are literally countless apps and website available to users today. Being able to control the situation is invigorating and enticing. It can make you feel empowered. However, you don’t want to step into a bad situation because you didn’t take the time to investigate the individual fully before connecting with them. Here are a few mistakes you want to avoid when dating online.
    • Putting too much emphasis on the pictures. Don’t nitpick every detail of the picture apart. While you are the one who is in control of whether you are going to reach out to the individual or not, you don’t want to turn someone away because of something minute. For example, you don’t want to turn down a prospect because of their hair color, eye color, height or clothing size. Those are miniscule in comparison to who the person is as an individual.
    • Obsessing over all the small details. Just because the individual prefers different movies, restaurants or books than you do, that doesn’t mean you aren’t going to hit it off. Consider things from a broader perspective. Finding someone to meet every single detail isn’t going to happen. Compromise is crucial in dating in general.
    • Not evaluating the profile tone.Pay careful attention to the overall tone in the profile. It can help you get an idea of what the individual is like, which isn’t always easy. You can get an idea of whether the individual seems reasonable, pleasant, well-adjusted and friendly all by looking at their profile. Check for insincerity, boastfulness and bitterness. You don’t want to get caught up in a relationship with someone who can’t be honest about what their motives are.
    • Choosing someone based entirely on their profile. Regardless of how good you think you are at judging someone from their profile, there is a lot more to the person than just what their profile offers. You learn far more from sitting in a public venue and watching the individual’s demeanor and overall mannerisms.

    Remember, the people you are matched with online are those who have the same characteristics you do. That doesn’t mean they are going to be the one, but it does mean that you have things in common you both enjoy. This is a great first step in forming a good relationship. Many individuals search for the perfect mate for years, only to never find them. However, that doesn’t mean they aren’t out there. Oftentimes, people give up on love because they went on a few dates that didn’t end up working out.

    Instead of putting so much pressure on yourself when attempting online dating, be patient and keep working at it. Dating takes a lot of practice and hard work to find the one for you. Online dating allows you to examine exactly what you are looking for in life. It allows you to do things you might not have done in the past. While the ultimate goal of online dating is to find someone that you can end up marrying and growing old together with, you shouldn’t discount all of the valuable life experience you are going to gain.
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